Words of Wisdom from Cardinal Arinze: "Keeping it in the family."

Reading through God's Invisible Hand, I found this passage by Cardinal Arinze that struck me as topical:

"A good family member does not go to outsiders to discuss the problems of his family. A good family member does not go to outsiders and tell people, "You know my mother is not very kind and fights with my father sometimes; my father is very harsh to my mother." A good son or daughter does not say that outside the family. But within the family, that child has a nice way to bring up a point to be discussed. A good family member does not tell outsiders, "You know our house is leaking, our family is in trouble The roof - we didn't repair it." A person who loves his family doesn't do that. He discusses it within the family, so also in the Church. The more we do that, the better the Church will go; to say that everything is not going well does not mean we don't love the Church."

"But if a person thinks something is not going well in the Church, and the first thing he does is to call the TV or the newspaper or the radio and tell the whole world, then I begin to ask myself, "Does this child love his mother?" If so, why go to the marketplace to discuss the defects of your mother? Or what you hold to be the defects of your mother, because they may not even by defects, but you think they are defects. Even so, why don't you do it lovingly in the family?"

I ... agree.